I was reading a really interesting book the other day. I’ve actually read it several times before because it fascinates me (and it’s only a short book that’s quick and easy to read).
And it struck me that what I was reading about was actually something that can stop people from writing. And I used to be one of those people. It can be a real time-waster without you even realising you’re doing it.
And what I’m talking about is being needy. It’s something that most of us do automatically and it’s a complete waste of time.
What do I mean by being needy?
It means spending time explaining things to people when you really don’t have to.
Being needy is when you feel that you owe someone a long explanation. And it doesn’t matter who it is. If you feel like you have to explain yourself, then you’re being needy. You don’t owe anyone an explanation about anything.
So if you find yourself giving a long, detailed explanation to someone, stop doing it. That’s being needy.
And it doesn’t matter if you want them to do something for you or they want you to do something for them. Trying to explain yourself at length is being needy. It’s being needy of them liking you.
Even if someone is demanding that you explain yourself and say why you can’t help them or worse, if you’re trying to do them a favour and feel that you need to give a detailed reason as to why they should LET you help them, STOP!
You’re wasting your time by being needy.
It would be far better to talk less, ask for nothing, offer less, and say less to everyone.
And then you’d have more time to devote to your writing.
Persuasion Secrets of the World's Most Charismatic & Influential Villains
A short but extremely insightful little book that helps you to do more and to care less.
This little book can be read in less than an hour, but you’ll want to read it again and again.
http://viewbook.at/villains
And it struck me that what I was reading about was actually something that can stop people from writing. And I used to be one of those people. It can be a real time-waster without you even realising you’re doing it.
And what I’m talking about is being needy. It’s something that most of us do automatically and it’s a complete waste of time.
What do I mean by being needy?
It means spending time explaining things to people when you really don’t have to.
Being needy is when you feel that you owe someone a long explanation. And it doesn’t matter who it is. If you feel like you have to explain yourself, then you’re being needy. You don’t owe anyone an explanation about anything.
So if you find yourself giving a long, detailed explanation to someone, stop doing it. That’s being needy.
And it doesn’t matter if you want them to do something for you or they want you to do something for them. Trying to explain yourself at length is being needy. It’s being needy of them liking you.
Even if someone is demanding that you explain yourself and say why you can’t help them or worse, if you’re trying to do them a favour and feel that you need to give a detailed reason as to why they should LET you help them, STOP!
You’re wasting your time by being needy.
It would be far better to talk less, ask for nothing, offer less, and say less to everyone.
And then you’d have more time to devote to your writing.
Persuasion Secrets of the World's Most Charismatic & Influential Villains
A short but extremely insightful little book that helps you to do more and to care less.
This little book can be read in less than an hour, but you’ll want to read it again and again.
http://viewbook.at/villains
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